What labels have you put on yourself that might not be accurate?
I am a perfectionist and not only self-labeled but others have labeled me as well. I think being a perfectionist is a short trip to an ever unsatisfactory existence, and in my advanced years, I realize this. It's not so easy because I was raised to be this and was in a business where it was somewhat necessary. That being said, I am trying to chill and just enjoy whatever is coming now and next.
What’s your version of “I’m an introvert”?
I think I am in the middle as are most people. I spent many years performing so that in itself can make you relish peace and quiet. I still do, especially now that I can actually have that, having been a single parent to now grown children. I don't want to go to big events anymore and much prefer small groups where you can actually get to know someone new. I enjoy quiet things much more now, and I think it is a result of being more comfortable with myself. I never feared public speaking and was pretty good at so will do it when needed.
And what parts of yourself could you lean into more, if you just gave yourself permission?
Celebrating progress, not having ridiculous expectations, and not punishing myself for problems or failures of the past.
Tall orders all in all. And perhaps more personal information than you asked for.
I love the information its one of my favorite things about substack is people really share. Love the feedback and thoughtful addition to the conversation Ruth. Thank you!
Agree with the Substack community. Relatively new here but liking it and feeling more of fit than elsewhere. I brought a few friends with me and they are doign really well.
"Bull in a china shop" is one I use and others see in how I am persistent and make things happen. The reality is that I notice words, body language and tone to understand people and pick up on the nuances that others sometime miss. Subtle is NOT a word I use to describe myself. I do notice the subtleties of people and connect easily because of it. Subtlety Bull??? LOL!
I’m working on taking the words I use to pigeon hole myself out of my vocabulary. Biggest phrase is one I used for 40 years I heard “for your size” after every compliment I ever received. I could & did loose 100lbs over & over but it never stuck until I changed the words in my head. Same with extrovert I always said I was until I allowed myself to appreciate myself in solitude. Now I’m working on being me with no labels!
I say stuff like “I’m not a hugger” or “I’m not a morning person”
Pretty wobbly statements consider I do hug some people and hugging my kid straight up recharges me.
And I’ve been getting up for work around 5-6 for a year and a half now and I’m still not a morning person but I grew the f up and get over it. lol
Haha there ya go. Extra awkward hug coming you direction next time I see ya. :)
What labels have you put on yourself that might not be accurate?
I am a perfectionist and not only self-labeled but others have labeled me as well. I think being a perfectionist is a short trip to an ever unsatisfactory existence, and in my advanced years, I realize this. It's not so easy because I was raised to be this and was in a business where it was somewhat necessary. That being said, I am trying to chill and just enjoy whatever is coming now and next.
What’s your version of “I’m an introvert”?
I think I am in the middle as are most people. I spent many years performing so that in itself can make you relish peace and quiet. I still do, especially now that I can actually have that, having been a single parent to now grown children. I don't want to go to big events anymore and much prefer small groups where you can actually get to know someone new. I enjoy quiet things much more now, and I think it is a result of being more comfortable with myself. I never feared public speaking and was pretty good at so will do it when needed.
And what parts of yourself could you lean into more, if you just gave yourself permission?
Celebrating progress, not having ridiculous expectations, and not punishing myself for problems or failures of the past.
Tall orders all in all. And perhaps more personal information than you asked for.
I love the information its one of my favorite things about substack is people really share. Love the feedback and thoughtful addition to the conversation Ruth. Thank you!
Agree with the Substack community. Relatively new here but liking it and feeling more of fit than elsewhere. I brought a few friends with me and they are doign really well.
"Bull in a china shop" is one I use and others see in how I am persistent and make things happen. The reality is that I notice words, body language and tone to understand people and pick up on the nuances that others sometime miss. Subtle is NOT a word I use to describe myself. I do notice the subtleties of people and connect easily because of it. Subtlety Bull??? LOL!
Hahah Subtle Bull is great. 😂😂
It's like adult diapers. It Depends.
Hahah facts. :)
I’m working on taking the words I use to pigeon hole myself out of my vocabulary. Biggest phrase is one I used for 40 years I heard “for your size” after every compliment I ever received. I could & did loose 100lbs over & over but it never stuck until I changed the words in my head. Same with extrovert I always said I was until I allowed myself to appreciate myself in solitude. Now I’m working on being me with no labels!
Love this!!
I thrive in social settings.... until I don't. My social battery is only so large. Once it depletes I need quiet time time to recharge.
Perfect analogy.